So you wanna play with magic

[Whiterose]

Thank you everyone for your support and love.....it was a very emotional day yesterday after I received that and I am still in a little bit of shock over it. Normally, H's family acknowledges nothings so that she messaged me at all means they are stewing (and spewing) pretty badly.

KML I think that response was very well thought out and composed but the problem lies in the fact that my in-laws (M, F and S x 3) are all severely depressed and emotionally stunted. I would have an easier time convincing the TV of my innocence than them. If they, who see and interact with their brother daily, cannot understand the ramifications of the decisions he has made then how am I, the outsider, ever going to convince them to see the light? It's almost like a third party, far removed from the situation, would have to say "seriously, WTF you guys?!?!? he left" but, it cannot be me.

When SIL #1 up and left her H (and 2 of her 3 children) she didn't take anything. Got a buy out on the house and that was it. Thought it was better. When SIL #3 left her common law (of 10 years) she took nothing and got a buy out on the house. It was almost like they did it to prove how they are not about the money. Please, don't think I'm about the money, but what I am about is protecting my kids and that means I get what I'm entitled to for them. My concern is not for where H is sleeping but where my children are sleeping. If he can't eat then they need to have him to dinner because NEVER once have they (well, SIL #2 did a couple of times early on) checked to ensure that their brother was providing for his children. They have never asked how I manage to pay the mortgage, and the bills, and put new winter coats and boots on their bodies while making sure they eat......if someone is going to call someone "disgusting" it's sure not going to be directed at the woman ensuring the kids are OK.

I'm sorry to say it also may stem from jealousy.......they just don't like my family. They've said how we think we're better than them (we never have!!!) Both immigrant families (H and I are both first generation born in Canada) both families came with nothing. Both have struggled immensely. Differences.....decisions made. Not running when things got tough. Setting solid foundations. Making education a priority and not an option. Going without. My family is crazy but we know it, we own it, and we DEAL with it. SIL #1 has three sons older than my S19.....they live at home, no schooling, no jobs, smoking pot and she buys their cigarettes and no one seems to say UMMMMMM. SIL #2 married with an alcoholic that has left (a couple of days each time) her and have not slept in the same bed for years. SIL #3 lives with a man that is emotionally and mentally abusive to the point she feels worthless. All their children suffer from anxiety and/or depression. SIL #1 oldest suffers from psychophrenia

My in-laws are broken people creating more broken people and I'm in my corner of the world doing my best to break the cycle for my boys......if they cannot see it then the best I can do is keep the candle lit and hope that one day they'll see the light.

At this point I truly feel my best option is silence BUT if any of them send me any other nasty messages, or if they dare send one to one of my boys again, I will speak up and it'll be the mamma bear that responds. Firstly, H will be asked, politely, to call off the family and then I will ask my dad for more money and get my lawyer on the case because that $hit won't happen again.......I've told my H over the years I may not be the one to start something but if I need to I'll finish it and if they attack me or my kids again I'll finish it before they've even realized I've started.


GEESH.....apparently, I needed to get that out.......thanks for the ear guys:)