Part of his problem is the withdrawal from the ow and he's having a difficult time w/that and yes, he's going to blame you for that. Give him plenty of space and time to choke on. No more pointing fingers about things he's done wrong, i.e., you are not his mother. Your h needs to grow up and has to do this on his own. While he's blazing a trail through mlc, it's a time or you to learn about yourself. Start and/or finish up projects that have been sitting on the back burner. Think about the person you were before you married and that may be the person you want to be again. This is a time for you to do those things that you haven't done in ages, experiment and just have some fun.
Be yourself, but also live your life to the fullest and have some fun along the way. Leave him to God and twirling in the wind.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
