Divorce on the table, Hoping for miracle

[Groov]

Kate,

I hear what your saying. My db coach suggested I write this letter and send it to her. This In light of her proceeding with divorce paperwork, and me confirming an affair.

I feel always conflicted on what to do... I'm trying to follow my coach's advice. But I also get conflicting messages from the forums.

Did I make a mistake in sending the letter? I have made it clear I don't want separation and divorce. I am 5 months into this since bd. I know that's not long but W is pursuing divorce now. OM is pursuing divorce as well. What am I to do?

OM is in the picture and there is nothing I can do until that runs its course. Anyway, I don't want to lose hope.

Groov