A, my xh won't get anything out of the house in the end. By the time I get credit for paying the mortgage and community debt and he repays the community for debts that are his under the law his equity is eaten up. And that's only if the court values the house later as opposed to when he left. I have good arguments for why the valuation should be done earlier, but I may not prevail. In any event, I'm not worried. The biggest hurdle for me was closing a refi which should be done today. Xh has tried to block it, but in the end realizes that he is deliberately trying to cause me financial harm and could be subject to sanctions.
A, our stories are somewhat similar. My xh just wanted to be rid of the house. I hung on and paid the mortgage believing that the market would turn around and it did. The first attorney I consulted advised me to sell it. I'm so glad I trusted my instincts. It's been a very tough road with lots of sacrifices, but I was able to keep my kids in their home and now have a solid asset.
Keep thinking creatively if you believe that keeping your house is in your best interest. Only you know that.
