This post is going to be totally random but I need some advice for a situation that may surface in the upcoming months. I forgot that my H mentioned this topic the other day and I wanted to get some advice. My hope is that this does not happen, but just want to be prepared in advance.
As I have mentioned before, the OW works with my H. There has been so much drama over the past couple of years involving the OW and the OW's husband (outside of the A). The OW's H is currently in prison serving time for a white collar crime. Before OW's H went to prison, he tried to blackmail my H. OW's H showed up at our house numerous times (and tried to call) trying to tell me about the A and threatening my H. At the time, I stupidly chose to believe H because the OW's H is a pathological liar/narcissist. There was so much drama with the OW and her H (tapping OW's phone, calls to police, secret phones, etc). I thought that when OW's H went to prison, we could get back to normal. Yet, it just caused my H to want to help the OW even more and you all know what happened from here.
OW's H should be in prison for the next several years. However, during our conversation on Christmas Eve, H mentioned that OW's H may be getting out in the next couple of months. Perfect
I know that I will need to establish a strict boundary that i will have NOTHING to do with H if he continues to have OW and therefore OW's H in our lives. But, how do I do this with our children?
I feel like I will have to move so that OW's H cant find me. Everytime the doorbell or phone would ring I would tense up thinking that it was him. I dont think that he would hurt me or the kids, but I just dont always want to feel like I am watching over my shoulder waiting for him to contact me or try to blackmail our family. But I dont want to take the kids away from their home. They and I would be crushed.
This guy is a huge liar and I dont really believe that he is going to get out. But I just want to be prepared in case H mentions one day that he has been released. At the time, I was so angry with H that he let these people into our lives. H thought that I was creating all the drama and could not see that OW and her family were horrible (you think that he would know since OW's H stole a ton of money from my MIL and FIL).
Wow - when I type this out if seems as if I am living in a soap opera. I promise that I am a totally normal girl, who used to have a really normal family.
I have been doing a great job not thinking about the future. But I need to prepare myself for this just in case. And potentially even mention it to H so that he knows in advance that what happened last spring will not happen again. I am a much stronger person than I was back then and I honestly wont have any problem closing the door to our M if he chooses to keep these people in his life. I WILL NOT live like that again.
