Everything Cat wrote coulda been written to me too. That's me. I own it.
For me, the pleading and the impulsive regurgitating of emotions to someone who has made it clear--he's can't handle it and doesn't want to--for me it's about being abandoned again. It's a feeling of helplessness... of loving someone, again, who can't love me back in the way I need him to. It's me beating my head against a brick wall until I'm bloody because I so desperately need someone to hear my pain and stop hurting me. I'm asking someone to HEAR ME. Which is really ironic because I think that's what my H is wanting too. Our pain gets in the way of us really hearing each other.
This could be me too, everything you said. Time to stop feeling abandoned and be OK.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.