Weekend went ok, both the W and I did our own thing. Not much talking again. I continued with my goal to do things around the house. I told W I was going to clean the kitchen but would put her stuff off to the side for her to do with what she wanted. She said to just clean up any mess I was making and she would do hers.

I said ok figuring it wouldn't get done and I would do it in a couple days. To my surprise she cleaned the bathroom she primarily uses one day(it hadn't been cleaned in the 6 months I was not at the house)and the next she cleaned the kitchen. Don't get me wrong I am happy about it. Just wondering why all the sudden she has decided to do these things now instead of before. Is this a baby step?

without much conversation between us it is hard to try and fill her love bank. Should I still attempt a kind word about her once a day or just leave it be?

I am trying to be patient but it gets hard sometimes to resist to try and start a good conversation with her because of the lack of communication we had before the S. I so far have done it but it is very difficult.

Any advice on what to do when this feeling of antsiness comes over me?


Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014