You are both right. I am still trying to control the situation and him and trying to make him all better. I know I wasn't very db last night, but that is what happens when I get so emotional. Something I am trying very hard to work on. I will really, really, really work on letting him go this time. That is my assignment. I will start posting on my new thread how I am going to do that. I know you all will hold me to it.
I always feel like I need to understand things and why and how people can be cruel and drop you like a hot potato when it suits them. But in reality, I don't need to understand that. I need to move on from them and keep being the best me, without someone who chooses to treat me this way. I can do this.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
You are both right. I am still trying to control the situation and him and trying to make him all better. I know I wasn't very db last night, but that is what happens when I get so emotional. Something I am trying very hard to work on. I will really, really, really work on letting him go this time. That is my assignment. I will start posting on my new thread how I am going to do that. I know you all will hold me to it.
I always feel like I need to understand things and why and how people can be cruel and drop you like a hot potato when it suits them. But in reality, I don't need to understand that. I need to move on from them and keep being the best me, without someone who chooses to treat me this way. I can do this.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
I posted on your new thread, but wanted to say that everyone has given you some great advice and things to think about.
You cannot convince him not to leave - at least not your M - because he has really already done it, despite the fact that he is living at home. I cannot imagine how hard it is to live with your MLCer.
But do what is best for YOU. Love the fact that you demanded respect! Keep to that boundary. This situation is bad enough without experiencing disrespect in your own home.
