Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Dont kill me guys, Im am all over the place especially with the above comment "Here's my personal dilemma as to what to do about GAL"

Its not 180's, its not stay at home to do what you've been doing all along, its just the opposite. Its for you to gain some emotional control of yourself. Do you have that?

I know this goes against what I just said above, but after re-reading my post, actually thinking it through, and more importantly not letting my emotions guide me........ YOU ARE 100% Correct here.

I do need to GAL, and DETACH, So Forget what I said above. Yes she thought that by me staying home and drinking nightly that "I was doing what ever the hell I wanted to do." Well guess what? Im not Drinking anymore. And trust me there were/are soooooooooooo many more things I wanted to do during our marriage. Im not "really" complaining here, but I did give lots up (even some friends) to be with my wife and take care of my family. She would ALWAYS give me a hard time about wanting to go do something, or give me the silent treatment, which was worse in my opinion. So, for the most part I became a home body, family man and I dont resent it (well maybe a little) but I did what I did.

Go to the gym - this needs to be a commitment you make to yourself. I also suggest you come up with a few goals for yourself that you control 100% of the outcome......3 months or 6 months. You are going thru so much emotional hell right now ..the depths you can't feel because you are trying to keep your head up.

Thank you so much PS, your post made me feel so much better and it encouraged me to go soul searching on saturday. Heres my plan so far. Im going to workout (I do a calisthenics workout at the park) at least 3x a week. After new years Im going to a one night a week bible study. Church Sunday morning, and Im going to thrown in some friend time in there somewhere.

You guys will be excited to know Im GAL this weekend! From Friday to Sunday Im Going Camping and Quail Hunting with a good friend of mine. I've never been before, so this is something new for me. He's been asking me for 2 years to go with him, but I've always denied as I thought the WAS might get upset. Im really excited.

Guys I can honestly say Im DETACHING and it does feel good. Its not perfect, but it does feel good. It is easier said than done, but when it happens you will finally realize why everyone was making such a big deal about it.

Thanks again everyone, and sorry for being all over the place in my last 2 posts.