KdogGS' Journey Part Trece

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Although it's very difficult, try to keep your emotions in check as this becomes the business side of marriage. The emotional side of your marriage is already severed, this is only the dividing of the pots and pans.

Don't be offended with the first proposal. That's all it is, a place to start. Don't take it personally, you have the power to keep that from happening.

Know who you want to be through this and your bottom line.

Take responsibility for your words and actions. Avoid the "she did x, so I had to do y" victim position.

Have you heard of the Drama Triangle? There's a lot about it on the web, google Lynn Forrest 3 faces of victimhood.

You're going to do fine K. Doesn't mean it's not going to be painful but you'll be OK and eventually better than OK and then maybe even better than you've ever thought possible.

Everything we encounter in life can teach us something. We can either cover our ears, stomp our feet and scream NO NO NO or we can relax into it and believe that this will not kill us, it will be painful but we need to be right here for some reason.

At the other end is something better because you will be better.