3-I think you handled yourself well. I don't think there is anything wrong with clarifying things without being rude. He seems to respond well when you do this.
To me, it really demonstrates the fog they're in. You've only contacted him twice since you've DB! That's great. It really seems like he doesn't 'get it'.
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014