OMs, cycling, cakes and confusion Oh my Lord ;)

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SM34,
Noticed something regarding my sit and yours.
My XW did mention of quitting multiple times while we were dating every time she feels 'unloved'. Many reasons I'm not sure of. We did break up one time but for a very short period...more like in hours. There's an OM too.
However, we got married. I'm her first love and she is mine. The first few years she never mention the word 'Divorce'. It only appears the last couple of years.

My question is it possible that your W is a 'runner'?
W runs every time she's afraid and if she didn't find any shelter (OM), she comes back to you.
In your case, she ran from OM and found a shelter in you.
It is possible that she understands this?
Some people just runs...