Pudmuddle, I am sorry he's violated the boundaries that were set. He now knows where you stand and hopefully he will respect your wishes.
You have exhibited courage and I do hope that you are okay. Be kind to yourself and definitely take care of yourself too.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
