Reaching out for support and advice!!

[bluesgal]

OOh, good questions. Zero tolerance means divorcing my H for his A and continued lies and disrespect. This thought crosses my mind now more than ever. Moving on means filing for D and no longer feeling affected by his poor decisions. I am in constant worry about people finding out about the A.

My H works at a company where we know a lot of people. We live in a town of 1000 people. I feel like moving on and filing D would no longer attach me to the potential rumors that are more than likely spinning.

He has said he has ended the A and wants to switch departments at work. This would still not make it impossible for the A to continue, of course. He continues to take minimal responsibility and shows no remorse for his behavior. He is still rude and angry.

The only reason, I believe, he is saying these things is because he doesn't want me to 'out' him for his misdeeds and he doesn't want to have a 'weekend' relationship with his kids.

When he says he is willing to try, he will not answer the question of what that looks like. Feeling hopeless.