Melissa let me clarify. If she told her friends that she had doubts about marrying me, and at the same time didn't change her name the same way every one of her girlfriends did, then she had one foot out the whole time.

Marriage only works when there is finality. I learned that from Dobson. Fo her to show some that she views it as final, she should change her name. I'm not saying that in a bad way. Maybe I would simply suggest it to her...like...

W: what can I do to make you believe that this wil not happen again, and that I am fully invested in this marriage.

Me: Changing your name to match mine and our daughter, might be a start.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017