I wanted to believe that depression had some causal role in this from the time of the birth of our son up until a few months ago (and I know she has her issues as well as I do) but at this point she is acting less depressed and more... I'm not sure how to describe it.
Do you mean you wanted to believe it was depression as opposed to something else?
If all of this was caused from depression, would it help you cope better?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!