A twist on cake-eating & dropping a bomb of my own

[2Times2Many]

Maybe this is where you clarify what your expectations are for this relationship today and take a look at how long you are willing to wait.

I had to chuckle when I read this one. My C and I discuss this every time I see her ... how long are you willing to wait? She wants a time line, but I don't think dealing with someone in MLC is the kind of thing you can put a targeted date on.

Anyway, you are right. H has given me some real gifts lately and I am so thankful for that. Asking to join me on vacation was a biggie for me. He contacts at least once, usually twice, a day just to touch base. He doesn't tell me how to handle household or car issues myself anymore, but volunteers to take care of it when he gets back if it can wait. He says he misses me once in awhile and calls me sweetheart now and then (that's one he doesn't use with other people like sweetie or honey). He asks about my family and other things he knows are important to me.

Seems small, but it is a lot considering where we were just before Thanksgiving. I suppose it is human nature to get a little of something good and want more! If I can keep my focus on the small progress and not let the uncertainty of the future overwhelm me, I'll be okay. Just need patience.

Bottom line is that he hasn't pulled back. He's actually warmed up quite a bit. Socially, he's only doing what he has been doing for the past 6 months or more. In reality, based on what he tells me about his social life over there, he has backed down quite a bit. He was going out, drinking heavily and partying nearly every night. He seems to have cut back on that by about half. (I was also pleased to see when he was home that he was only drinking an occasional beer or glass of wine instead of slamming down several cocktails each night.)

I just need to stay on track and keep doing what I've been doing for the past few weeks.

Thank you so much Heather. And feel free to borrow my New Year's Eve plans! May we both enjoy!

2T