Well it all comes down to money as a motive to move forward with this divorce. I don't want it, but I'm also going to be homeless if I don't go through with it. The situation is like this, I live in Los Angeles and I'm a grad student. At best I make $30k/year which is barely enough to sustain an apartment...I used to get financial aid when I was single but as H makes over $100k/year that was all gone. When we lived together that was fine, as he paid most of the bills. Now that I'm living single and no longer getting financial aid as a married person, I just can no longer do it.
My parents strongly suggested I file separately this year so I can get a much greater tax return to pay off rent and other bills. I told H this and he freaked. He complained that he would lose a lot of money and that he would file as a married couple with or without my permission (good luck doing that without my W-2s...). Plus, the guy makes more than enough money, and he's complaining because he'll lost a few grand while I'm living check to check? Really?! It's like my parent-in-laws complaining who make over $500k/year (they own a practice) about having to pay 1% more taxes. I mean geez, most people would be thankful to have that much money and live in that big of a house. And you have to give a bit extra to help the general population...cry me a river. Mother-in-law bought a fox fur coat last year, maybe she'll have to buy faux because of that tax raise. :P
Anyway, I told him I was going to go through with it. He said we agreed to file jointly this year (and this being the reason he held off the divorce) and that I wasn't being nice. I told him I just can't do it...and if he felt the need to divorce because of that then he has to do what he feels is right.
So it appears I'll be going to the divorce forums soon. I'm guessing the only reason he hasn't filed yet was to save money. I'd like not to think of myself as that kind of commodity. I guess when it comes down to it I have to choose finishing my grad program over saving something that might or might not happen. I don't feel good about it, but I know I have to stand my ground on this one..
