Ambivalent, I'm very sorry to read that he is ramping up his rewritten history and his replay behavior has ramped up. If you remember, I told you a while back that he was just starting to enter into full blown replay...this is what it looks like and the more he thinks you are fighting him on stuff, the nastier and more determined he will become to move forward w/a divorce and cutting off paying bills that he thinks you should be responsible for now that he has moved out.
I realize and do understand that you need to express yourself, but I want to caution you that once you've said what is on your mind, that's it. The more you try to reason w/him, the more stubborn he's going to be to do things his way. Marriage is not a priority for him because he's already made up his mind he wants out. What he could do is make bill paying a priority and pay your final payment for school so that you can graduate and find a position. That would make more sense...but he's seeing nothing but dollar signs and they are going out the window on his past life. You can't rationalize w/him at this point in time. The more you try to make him see the light, the dimmer it will become for him because he has made up his mind about what he wants to do w/his life in the here and now.
If he's heavily in debt, it might be wise to file bankruptcy and clear the slate. He may be open to this, but I would think he has already looked into it if he's been doing some research on the house, etc. It doesn't hurt to offer up that suggestion and see what he has to say about it.
I'm very sorry he's not willing to work w/you on the finances. You've got some really tough decisions to make in the days ahead.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
