Hey Busting, just wanted to say i'm reading along and thinking of you and your kids.
Re your last post, IDK... I feel like my XH is too confused and in turmoil to be sure of anything. And he switches like the wind. I don't think we can be sure of anything in regards to them. Nor is there any point in trying to figure their thinking out. My XH just seems addled.
From my reading of what ex-mlcers say, they just have to run away. They can't explain it, they just know they have to get away. They are worried and scared, sure and unsure, certain and uncertain. It's the script.