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[Ambivalent]

Guys, the moths are not the issue...


So husband did write back. He must reeeaally be cycling down. I just go a whopper of a response.

He has rewritten history, he is back to blaming me, I didn't meet his needs, he "tried" to tell me.

I need to now make three thousand a month as opposed to the other letter where I needed to make one thousand.

I should get a market analysis on the house.

He provided a pretty good life for me. I have to be responsible for my financial life, he's been unhappy for years, and he is too young to let that path to continue.

Oh my gosh it is scripted. He even complained that I lost weight after he left!

So , I have no money to use an attorney...He has upped the amount of money I should now be making, he wants to sell the house. What the Hell do I do now?

I am not going to engage in another back and forth. He is back at the beginning again. Repeated and this time added some stuff he spewed.

I cannot take in kids if or a boarder if he keeps threatening the house.

Courts cannot compel him to pay the mortgage, and he can't compel me to sell the house.

He is applying more pressure. I have two attorney's that have said don't rush out and get a job.

So I'm really confused.

Part of me wants to say: You want out of this marriage, then I have to follow the advice of the lawyers I've seen. They have instructed me not to get a job until after I have passed the boards. That to do so would not be in my best interest.

You have one last payment that needs to be made to the school before they will let me graduate. I may not take the boards until the school says I've graduated.

I am taking the advice of the books you gave me, and the lawyers have given me.

If you want your needs to be a priority then you will have to make the marriage a priority. I cannot put your needs ahead of mine if you continue to pursue divorce. It is not possible to do both.

Other than that I have to do what is in my best interest.

I disagree with most of the rewritten history you wrote, I have contributed quite a bit to the marriage and family. While not perfect and mistakes were made on both parts, I do not believe that divorce will solve anything nor accomplish anything.

It is what you have chosen to pursue, then you may pursue it.


So , the att's. did say if he allows foreclosure it could be one to two years before I'm out of the house. The only thing I would need are the bills ,and food. It would put three thousand a month into the bank, and should stop his this duress about money...who knows?

Part of me wants to suggest he file for bankruptcy, and go from there.