The end of Limboland

[mj0221]

Ambi,
Thanks for stopping by and you can call me whatever you'd like. It's really mj and then numbers but I won't turn you away

I have been following your thread and I am so sorry you are where you are right now. You have been put in a very tight spot. Those married as long as you I try and imagine because it's all I can do. Mine at 12 years feels devastating enough. So I can only imagine your pain.

The house....yes about keeping it I hear ya. I've had several great responses. While I do have a great deal of equity in my house another side of me keeping it is i would like it as investment and build up more equity. I basically have a pathetic retirement on my own so I'm looking at this as my investment. I can see your point about building some yet I don't want to get in a financial bind either. I won't be getting alimony. My state doesn't freely give it out unless you were a stay at home spouse and I have worked full time all these years.....wish I had known that lol.

I am going after his retirement because he retires in March of 2014 so I will get a monthly check from that. I wish he would also see we could be soooooo well off if he would come to his senses....nope. He had a great job he is getting to retire at 42 but give his wife half and now go find another job making what he was making at his first job because his retirement is no more.

I have learned through this process H only thinks about himself. It is all about him. I have learned that I have to look out for myself.