Limbo is the new normal

[slow_it_down]

I hate to complain because I know how lucky I am to have an H with a legitimate interest in working things out, but damn, can't a girl catch a break?

Today my H informed me that his mom sent him an email saying she'll be visiting him in about a week and a half. She didn't ask first, she just went ahead and made plans. She lives halfway across the country so it's not like she's just swinging by for a day... This is like a week long "I'm coming whether you want me there or not" kind of visit.

I was so looking forward to the calm life after the holidays. My kids have been away with their dad for the past week and it's another week till I really see them again. Plus my H has been more upbeat than I've seen him in at least a year.

I'm really angry w/ mil for coming w/o asking if it was a bad time (I want to see my kids not be entertaining company). And my H gets very flustered when his mom is around. He's a grump the week before she comes, he's a jerk the week she's here, and it takes him a month to get her out of his system after she goes. Her email alone was enough to add a very sour note to both our days. Good bye cheerful upbeat H for awhile

So much for 2014 being a year with less drama. I really want my H to grow a pair, tell her we are working things out, and tell her she can't just come w/o considering what will work for both of us. I made it pretty clear that if she does come he's on his own with her. I will not support her doing this because it sets a bad precedent for how future plans are made. I'm 100% a family person and don't mind her visiting... Just not so soon after her last visit, and not when I had a quieter January in mind!!

End of rant.