Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[labug]

Fly, I very often agree with your advice and you weren't the only one who replied. Reasonable people can disagree, doesn't make me right and you wrong or vice versa.

I often say this: For me exhibiting honor, dignity, respect are more important than a "So there!" to your W, or something similar and it was directed to Scott, not in response/reaction to anyone else but on re-reading I can see that it seemed that way. I meant no disrespect and I apologize.

Scott, I've seen it so many times here that the LBS gets caught up in tit-for-tat battles that are nothing but reactive and keep the LBS in the role of victim. Every move made is based on what the WAS has said or done or not said or done.

For most of us it takes a little excavating to get to our core beliefs. But once we unearth them and act according to those beliefs, we no longer have to worry so much about every interaction.

That being said I still have to often do a self check in difficult times. Who do I want to be in this moment? What is my motive? Does what I want to say need to be said? How can I make this a win-win situation?

Thanks for the opportunity to explain this a little further.