I don't want to wear my excitement out....I have printed all your posts and am going to respond to each of you in time...
Thanks to Deb, you can read my life the past 2 years...I have struggled with so much...I did not want to believe h would have an a..knew it was probably ea..but he told me "all" last night...he told me that I have gone above and beyond the patience of giving him his space...won't go into all the details, but I do believe that working on yourself and knowing that life can and does go on gives you the courag to continue to get up each day...also anger and resentment is nto something that will help you heal your m..now I know that every sitch is different..that alot of you have been hurt over and over, and anger is a normal feeling, but somewhere you have to want to replace that with hope and forgiveness(iam I "preaching??!!)I don't want to sound all high and mighty..but I think these are things I have said all along.
H did say that it was not me..but I told him something contributed to his feelngs changing..he said no..that he made a very big mistake..that he made a stupid choice..
We are going to go slow...after so many years of family..we need to be us..
SO everyone whos read this..have hope..courage to change what you need to change...to live each day to the fullest..count all our blessings that are right in front of you..your kids..your jobs..family..friends..even your spouse..
Sue
I know..I know..but has anyone read the book "The Purpose Driven Life"? It kinda makes you think about life..
Thanks for the update, reading your new thread is an inspiration to me. Makes me not want to give up and throw the towel in! 2 yrs! WOW! You have a lot of patience. I think someone else holds the record~3 yrs!
I went and read most of your old theads; sounded a little like mine.
Thanks for giving us hope! Can't wait to read more!
Your journey has proven that you have grown and become a very wise, loving, forgiving woman. We all deal with our difficulties during our own journey, but you hit the nail on the head regarding, anger & resentment. Those keep us stuck and are very hard to let go. It's imperative and I'm finally "getting it" and understanding God's purpose in my life. Yes, I, too read the Purpose Driven Life last fall and was in a 6 week discussion group. That opened my eyes and heart toward forgiveness and appreciation of all that is around me. It's the real deal.
Keep moving slowly in a forward direction, stop and be thankful from time to time....and keep us all posted, even with just brief updates. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Mooka
I'm working on the Purpose Driven Life, helped me through some of the darkest days.
I am so glad you have taken the actions you have and are where you are, it is because of how you acted, reacted and cared that you are getting the success you deserve.
It may be a bumpy road, but it is leading in the right direction!
Thanks..guys..Jackie..you are so right..how we handle ourselves is an important key to success...
Mooka...I will look for you..are you here or on another sight? I am so happy that I have been able to show others that there is hope...having faith and strength can get you through so much..I was truly ready to move on alone..and that is what i told h just a few weeks ago...I did not want to, but I was not going to force him to come back or start begging..I was going to live life to the fullest..never stop working on you..it is a day to day process.
Deb..don't throw in the towel..just put it aside for awhile, if that is what is needed...3 year is the record!!??? H has been gone almost 1 1/2 years..but the m really started going down hill in 2000..they say it can take in moths to repair a m, that you are m..so it would be 25 months..wow that sounds like a long time..is that from the very beginning, or from the time you start the piecing? Hang tight...miracles happen...prayers are answered..not laways our time frame..but they are answered.
I used to ask God to bring h back to me..then I changed it to.."help h find the happiness he is seeking..and if it is wiht me..great, if not then I will accept that"..kinda powerful!!
Dotty..you are and angel that came into my life...I feel good things are in store for you..
Thanks for visiting my thread. I did come here a few days ago and was so very happy for you and yes you do give me hope once again. Your name is perfect "hoping" as it will draw all to your thread. We must all keep the faith and hope! Hope is what is keeping me going, hope for a better tomorrow, for a better M.
Hoping, Did your H finally say what gave him the courage and the push to come off the train? I feel like my H has no courage to face his demons, to face me and admit what he has done, or not admit it, but just make the turn.
When I talk to my H, he DOES NOT seem happy. He seems to be spending time doing things with him male friends and watching a lot of sports on TV... he tells me these things sometimes. But the past week he seems distant.
I look at your sitch and I am happy for you... but the timeframe scares me... I have been doing this for a year, and my H has been out of the house for 8 months... and to wonder if I am going to do this for another year, I feel like I do not have the strength... However, there is no other path to take.
I am sorry to hijack your thread, Hope. I am just hoping you can shed some light and help keep my hope alive.
You said in December that you were so tired, and did not know what to do. I know exactly what you are talking about.
I pray, pray, pray... I pray for my H. My walk with the Lord is so much stronger than ever before, and that is what I have, and it is wonderful.
Any light you can shine on my situation would be wonderful.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
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