That 'being a doormat or am i really being nice/helpful' is a tough line to find. Trust me, i certainly don't know where it is.....
I have brought up the book 'no more mister nice guy' before, have you heard of it BH? No one responded on whether they were familiar with it or whether it was considered bad to be used in conjunction with d'bing.
It conflicts somewhat with the d'bing so i am not sure. But, a lot of it rang true to my ears! I remember early on in my R with wife I had no trouble making my opinion known. As time went on it seems i stuffed my opinion because i didn't want the stress of an argument.
I think in some part, that changed me to the degree that made my wife make the decision to move out. Reminds me of the joke of a wife spending 20 years changing her husband and then complaining he isn't the man she married
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
