I agree with what you said. In a sense one way or another the marriage you had is GONE. Either you'll keep going in a different direction or a new marriage will have to be built. If she doesn't do her work and /or you don't do your work, then the reconciliation you hope for is much less likely.

crazy days. sorry t hear you had this happen. I wish you luck. my wife has been gone since 12/5. Only having essential contact. fun times.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14