I agree with what you said. In a sense one way or another the marriage you had is GONE. Either you'll keep going in a different direction or a new marriage will have to be built. If she doesn't do her work and /or you don't do your work, then the reconciliation you hope for is much less likely.
crazy days. sorry t hear you had this happen. I wish you luck. my wife has been gone since 12/5. Only having essential contact. fun times.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14