Well, Christmas and my birthday were crap. H kept trying to start fights with me. He was in a bad mood all day. He had an uncle lecture him about how he treats me.
We got home and H is STILL pouting and ignoring me... And I'm not even sure what he's mad about.
I received no Christmas or birthday cards/gifts from him... Although, I wasn't expecting any so no big surprise there. I woke up just now to him moving his pillow and a blanket into the living room. No birthday sex for me, I guess. Lol. Like I'd want any right now.
H's been on his phone all day, too. It's like he's not even here...and when he is here, he's mean and hateful. Ugh.
I'm sorry H was behaving like he was, the first holiday season of my W's mlc was horrid, absolutely <blech!>. The first one is maybe the hardest, but idk. I hope the kids had a good xmas.
I'm glad you didn't have any expectations, makes it a bit more tolerable, maybe (?).
So what are your plans and goals for the new year?
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
I'm going to follow on T2's coat tail and wish you a happy birthday as well. The first year is always the worse. Some of them can be as nasty as h@ll. He's all bent out of shape because someone called him on his behavior and he couldn't go out and do whatever it is he wanted to do. Let him sit in a corner and stew.
I'm very glad you didn't have any expectations, but it still hurts no matter what. I do hope that you've got some great plans for today and can get out and enjoy the season. Don't worry about the baby...he'll straighten up a bit when he notices that no one is there to pat him on the back and tell him it will be all better.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Your H is truly behaving like a child. Did he really thinking moving his pillow and blankie to the couch would hurt you? I think your H passes through many child ages quite quickly. It must be hard to be so angry inside all the time.
My guess is he was stewing over the comments said to him and he again thought it was because of you. Sheesh. That man needs a kick in the @ss! Let me do it! Please, please, please?! LOL
Like job said, let him stew in his fermented juices for awhile. A long while. I'm sorry he hurts you so much. You don't deserve that at all.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Pud, the uncle who had a "talk" with H told me that same day that he'd like to kick H's @$$, too! Hahaha. And that is HIS uncle.
Anyway, thank T2 and job, also...for the birthday wishes and for reassuring me about the "first" Christmas after BD. It truly was horrible. At least, it's done and over! LOL.
H woke up in a really good mood yesterday. He was smiling, laughing, playing with the kids, joking around with me. He was seriously in an amazing mood from when he got up until he left for work. He texted me from work a few times, funny and flirty stuff. And, he's in a good mood today, too.
I swear he seems so bipolar sometimes! His mood swings are giving me whiplash! It really is enough to make ME think I'm the crazy one.
