Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Fly, First off, I completely appreciate your your advise. I honestly dont know what to do. let's try to figure this out.

It was just to detach and GAL. I thought we were only talking about ONE night out? Not a full agenda on co-parenting, which this has now been turned into.

I think you might be right that its too early for the full agenda/co-parenting (even though she would love a PLAN OF ACTION as to who's doing what when) To answer your question, Yes, it started off as just one night. I think that labug and I were thinking ongoing as well. The thing is I didnt have plans and I still dont think anyone I know is going out that night, so what the heck would I have done anyway?

As for last night, I didnt have plans either. She caught me off guard and said at the last second that she wanted to go out (Same way I've been doing it to her) What was I suppose to say, No you can't go out tonight?

Here is my thought. If I keep telling her "I" have plans, and "Im" going out tonight, that she will start to do the same. Then what? How am I suppose to come up with something at the last minute when I dont actually have plans.

-So far, when I make plans to go out/workout I either tell her the day of or the evening of. Should I be telling her further in advance or not?
-Im also pretty vague with what Im doing and with who. Is this okay?
-How often are you suggesting I go out and GAL?

The thing is that I agree with you and labug. labug made some great points. This would be a 180 for me to make the plans, but you also make a good point that at the moment she is DONE and doesn't care and its too early. I just dont know which way is the right way, or if I should try a hybrid of both.

I dont know what the hell im doing. Im getting really confused.