The dental and health insurance policies I haven't checked on yet but the auto insurance shouldn't be a problem. Honestly I was going to keep her on dental and health till things were done or she figured out what she really wants. I'd hate for anything to happen and she would need the insurance too. But just say they will be changed soon but for the time being she will remain on there.
I'm not supporting her by sending money or anything she requests. I just can't. And it messes with me because she knows me, she did always depend on me, and how I feel. Is she trying to use or manipulate? I thought maybe it was a test on her part to see if I was still there for her or something. Idk. She has to realize she can't depend on me especially in the situation we are now in.
She needs reality in her fantasy land. I was going to let her know these things and she what happens. In a nice not a-hole way but strong and to the point. I have to stand up for myself, not put up with mess, and be a man about it. I don't think she's expecting me to. It's a 180 and I can't continue to be a doormat, for anyone.
Whether or not she is keeping me as a backup after she does her thing idk. But I know she expects me to stay living and working here. Wth? And there's people to let her know any updates or news about me. Her parents and mutual friends here so I have to be careful what I do and say around them.
And she doesn't seem to be moving on anything and I don't get it. She was set on divorce a few weeks ago (told me she "wasn't sure we could stay married") but nothing is done. She lost her ID here a few weeks before she left. So no license or ID. She wanted me to send paperwork (birth certificate, marriage license) so she could get one. Why would I make this easier for her? She can go get a copy of what she needs but isn't. I thought the delay was a good thing for me.
From what I understand she needs to prove residency for 90 days before filing (back in her home state). I was hoping this window of time would be an opportunity for things to turn around. Now I'm not sure. And the fact that she doesn't want to talk to me about us or talk to anyone else about it doesn't look good.
