MJ...I totally get the "Throw something at us at just the right time to put us off our healing". I live it all the time. Just as I am turning a corner and feel better I get something thrown at me. The secret life my H was living literally drove me to insanity and for a small amount it still does. It isn't just as if he decided to move on and that was it. He was literally living his life under the same roof as us and no one knew anything. My boys both said if he died tomorrow they are quite certain another family will show up at the funeral and say its his. I too stuggle so much with depression and healing. I find it so hard to get out from this rock he put me under.
I guess keep journaling and learning. I too just started the Divorce process so maybe once the divorce is final we will start to feel better. What about a support group? I was thinking I would look into one to get out and meet others face to face and see if that helps. Funny, in looking at your profile we are very similar. Same ages, my son 12, other son 8 and we been married 15 yrs. Not too much different then you. My grandmother swears something happens to men in their 40s that they just change. Hard to know. There are good men out there but maybe for some that is true.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
