Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Fly and Everyone I really appreciate all you suggestions and comments. Im just tto DB and GAL as hard as I can. Its just so hard to wrap my head around and truly GAL when I've been doing the same thing for so long. Who the heck do you guys out with? Do you go out alone?

Right now your wife is done done done, and doesn't care what you think, your 180's, your detachment or your feelings much. She's in the early phase of "Screw this, he had his chance, my marriage is over". She's not interested, or noticing anything right now that your doing. In fact she's not even happy your there right now other than maybe the free baby sitting.

Your absolutely right, I can see it and feel it, I just dont want to believe it.

Please pick a thread, any thread, and read over the first 1-5 months. Nothing gets fixed in that time, its usually around the 2 year mark before things even begin to turn around. Usually we see the LBS still stuck during this time, cause they fail to detach. They become their own turmoil.

I dont have that long. This could be finalized in +- 6 months.

If you think for one second, she thought in response to your text tonight "OMG he's changing, maybe we can work this out", then I've got a bridge to sell you. Don't do it cause your hoping she'll notice, she wont this early. DETACH DETACH DETACH

I didn't think that at all. I just truly didn't have anything planned and not sure anything is going to come up. I also didnt have anything planned last night. It was 9pm when she mentioned she was going, out. What was I suppose to do say yea I have plans then pretend like was doing something for a few hours. I am tired of lying/making stuff up to my W. I use to lie about the drinking, lie about the dipping etc sometimes lie about where I was going. (Im tired of it)

Most if not all my friends are married. Their and my hobbies include fishing, surfing and hunting which are usually done during the day or early morning hours. Sure I would gladly do more of this, but that's what I've always done. As for going out on weekend nights? What do I have the bar scene? Not good for some trying not to drink. Plus it's not that fun to go out by yourself. Im open to suggestions. Dam I feel old writing this

The only thing I really have that is "different" for me is working out(which im really enjoying) and I am planning on joining a bible study on Wed. nights. That should take up 3 week night at least until 7-8pm.

Would you say this is a Start?