Bright, I'm sorry that you are having some down days. It's okay to pack his stuff up...but he may not take any of it when he comes...that is unless you push him to do so.
As for the postcards, store them in a shoebox and place the box on a shelf in the closet. Some day, when you aren't emotional, you can decide what to do w/them. When you are emotional, you are too tempted to toss things out that you can't recover once they are gone. Do this type of cleaning when you are calm and at peace and can think straight w/o getting emotional.
Your h, like many of them, does love you, but his emotional mess is coming to the surface. Sort of reminds me of the Grinch in "The Grinch Who Stole Christmas". Some day, when his emotional crisis has ended, he'll come to realize that he had the best of the best when he w/you. Whether he will admit it and attempt to return...well...that's in the future.
Please be kind to yourself. It's important that you take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
