Looks like you got a bit of conflicting advice at the end of your previous thread.

I want to explain why I gave you the advice I did. Its very early in your sitch. VERY early. Right now your wife is done done done, and doesn't care what you think, your 180's, your detachment or your feelings much. She's in the early phase of "Screw this, he had his chance, my marriage is over". She's not interested, or noticing anything right now that your doing. In fact she's not even happy your there right now other than maybe the free baby sitting.

Please pick a thread, any thread, and read over the first 1-5 months. Nothing gets fixed in that time, its usually around the 2 year mark before things even begin to turn around. Usually we see the LBS still stuck during this time, cause they fail to detach. They become their own turmoil.

You've seen the term "This is a marathon, not a race". Exactly.
With that said, this is your chance to detach as best you can.

If you think for one second, she thought in response to your text tonight "OMG he's changing, maybe we can work this out", then I've got a bridge to sell you. Don't do it cause your hoping she'll notice, she wont this early. DETACH DETACH DETACH

I absolutely agree that you need to work the program, you do need to be the best father you can. I think you admit you've already been doing that, so is it really a 180? Were you a bad father before?? Is that something you weren't doing before?

A lot of your responses are almost guilt that she didn't do enough to get out. You cant fix that for her, you cant be solely responsible for her happiness. Your also score keeping, you got 2 nights out and she deserves her time? Your making it your problem, and you think your helping fix her.

This early there is no fixing anything, the ONLY thing you can/should be doing is working on GAL and detachment. Now if you've been a bad father, then I apologize and rescind my advice, but you've been saying you've been a good dad.

17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.

If you've always encouraged her to go out, always helped with the kids, you've being doing your part. Then wouldn't a 180 be to actually go out and not do the above?

Do you think staying home now 2x in 4 days it acting like your moving on with or without?

This is Cadets first 3 comments in his newbie advice:

Welcome to the board

Get out and GAL.

DETACH.

Its not 180's, its not stay at home to do what you've been doing all along, its just the opposite. Its for you to gain some emotional control of yourself. Do you have that?

Anyways, I've thrown my 2 cents out there. I understand if you and others disagree with what im saying, and fully respect your choices. I hope you gain that detachment soon, cause in the end, that is the only control you have. And, its the only thing that will help you with your sanity for now. Once you have control of your sanity, then you can try to do things with no expectations.