Is there hope after divorce?

[Pampkin]

Hello, Karen---
I have not yet tried marriage counseling. H says that he doesn't need anyone to tell him how to feel or what to feel. He said that a third of people who try counseling are better off, the other third are worse off, and the last third are the same. He said that his mind is made up and there is nothing that can be said or done. He told me that in order for us to try again in the future, we have to go through with the D first; that way, we can start with a clean slate.

I don't know if I did the right thing tonight, but I gave him the Divorce Busting book. He said he would read it. Then he said that he should read it after the D. I quickly rescinded my offer, but he said he would read it. I'm not too optimistic about him changing his mind. I feel a little ashamed giving it to him or even admitting that I am reading self help books and save-a--marriage-how-tos since I'm always in control. I'm throwing anything and everything up against the wall to see what sticks. At least he knows that I am doing everything in my power to better myself and hopefully in the long run, he can see that I am trying to better us. At least he knows that I'm not going down without a fight. I want us back together again and I hope that the book will help him. Baby steps......