Did she get counseling along with ADs? Did she get counseling and support during the pregnancy with your S?
How much do you know about postpartum depression/perinatal mood disorders? It sounds like that's where her treatment was directed.
When W went through postpartum depression after the birth of D5, and began taking ADs, this was her second time on ADs during our M. During the first time, she began counseling. I went with her a few times at the request of the therapist. After that the therapist determined it would be better to focus in W individually rather than the M.
After birth of D5, W's OB prescribed the ADs, and W decided to go back to same therapist for a few sessions.
During pregnancy with S, there was no counseling. Support? Nothing professional or official. Just me.
Her anxiety after the birth of D5 was almost certainly postpartum depression. After about 12 weeks she improved dramatically.
Since W didn't seem to exhibit those anxious feelings or behaviors peri or postpartum to the birth of S1, I didn't see anything.
Around the time of BD, one of my mistakes was to suggest that depression was partially responsible for how she was feeling toward me. I had read about the idea of anhedonia, and other ways that depression can affect relationships. She took offense to this idea, and my insistence that she examine this possibility seemed to make things worse.
But postpartum depression related to the birth of S1.5 was not something I seriously considered until she mentioned that she realized she stopped loving me ever since he was born. At this point, I don't know how the knowledge/idea would be useful to me since I don't currently have the influence/voice to speak that into her life anyway.
Any suggestions or advice about this labug?
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14
