H had A, ended badly, fog clearing, need support

[trying very hard]

GM,

You are certainly in the midst of it. Lots of moving parts but you sure seem to have your wits about you. Can you get H to talk more about what he was/is after?

I can relate to the intimacy issues and the embarrassment. I never pushed W or more importantly talked about exploring things. Instead, if things didn't go my way I would back away, refuse to address it again and it hurt both of us. I now see that we needed to talk more openly and fight more. We never had make up sex, because we never fought. What a waste.

And W has sent pics and has had phone sex with OM. So the curiousity and potential was always there, I just left it untapped or couldn't figure out the right way to make it comfortable for her.