Hi MJ, My situation is very similar. My H one day just up and changed. He was cheating for a long time but I didn't realize it. Then he spent the next year in a secret life. It was pure torture because I was not able to know anything he was up to. He told me he didn't love me and had been unhappy for years, yada yada..He moved out recently and the past year has had little if at all to do with my kids. My S12 is so angry. My h took the kids for the holiday and my son was texting me the entire time he wanted to leave. My H couldn't figure out why s12 has an attitude with him...hello?? you have been MIA for almost two years. With that being said, one thing in all of this I have learned is that they are all the same. It is some weird cult that they all subscribe to that we have no clue why or what possessed them to become this crazy alter ego.
You could have done things differently but no matter what you did the outcome likely would have been the same.
I am still in my house but can't afford it. I am basically going up a river without a paddle right now if I don't make a decision what to do. The smart thing is to move ASAP but my kids are so upset. It makes it hard. Good luck. I hope things get easier.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
