"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
The last of her family leaves tomorrow. I'm on autopilot until further notice.
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
I just wanted to throw a good luck with your future vague "calculated risk". I truly hope it works out the way you are hoping it will.
I do think its a good idea, to test the waters a bit.
Even after all you've been thru, the years of work you've put in, the patience you've shown, the no expectations. You've earned a your shot at happiness.
Your posts are truly inspirational to what the process can do.
Whenever I'm sad I STOP being sad and start being AWESOME instead. True story.
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Hi Melissag...One thing I learned about this detachment topic came from a very good book called Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. he uses the term differentiated. this describes the process of becoming more of one's self while maintaining proximity to your intimate partner. Tricky balance.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
I will provide more details of recent events, but figured I owed a quick update. The rope has been completely dropped, doused in kerosene, and burned to a pile of ashes.
I told her "goodbye."
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
