I agree that I get to choose how I want to respond. I stay conscious of this when I get anxious and have learned how to sort out what I am feeling and why.

I guess because this past few weeks/ months have been confusing with H I need to more then ever stay focused on me and not H.

Christmas has really been lovely. It's been the best one since this all started.

Things really do get better.

For us. When we do the work.

I do not know what's going to happen tomorrow. So I will not worry about it and enjoy the moment now. Keeping things in perspective daily, even hourly, has helped so much.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home