Just so everyone knows, I've had/have more of a life than her. Before the BD I would have to tell her to go out, enjoy yourself, make some friends. She has a few work friends, but no true friends (i know sad right)
I had no problem going out and had lots of friends to go out with. I think she resented that. Or resented the fact that I was going to consume lots of alchol. Either way I've always had way more of a life than her as to why Im confused about this.
Would this be a 180 for me to say sure, I can watch them. Am I looking into this too deep?
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
Im with my sons alot in general. If/when she did go out, I would gladly watch the boys, no questions asked.
I agree I shouldn't make something up. I guess I feel like Im giving in if I say "Sure I can watch the boys", because she is the one who wants the divorce. This is probably not the right way to think/react is it?
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
Nope, she would stay home with them. If we went on a date, either her or my mom, or another family member would watch them. We are luck to have alot of family in the area.
I honestly think we hired a sitter maybe 3-4 times our married life, so both of us could go out for a date night.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
If she is scheduled to have them then she is responsible for their caretaking during that period. If D4 is sick and cant be in school and I have her that day I need to make arrangements.
WHAT DOES SCOTT WANT TO DO! You are not a bad Dad for wanting to have a life. In fact- It will make you a better stronger Dad.
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ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Nope, she would stay home with them. If we went on a date, either her or my mom, or another family member would watch them. We are luck to have alot of family in the area.
I honestly think we hired a sitter maybe 3-4 times our married life, so both of us could go out for a date night.
If you were actually planning to go out then tell your W that and then you make plans for your sons.
If this is to prove a point, why?
It seems that the expectation has been that she is with your sons when you go out but the reverse isn't true for her.
It would be a 180 for you to do this.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
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It seems that the expectation has been that she is with your sons when you go out but the reverse isn't true for her.
No, not at all. She just didnt go out near as much as me. I would always/gladly watch the boys when she went out. Day or Night. I actually encouraged her to go out.
Positive I live with my WAS and boys. The only set schedule we have is afterwork pick-up times.
I honestly dont have any plans for New Years. Even if my friends did/make plans im sure there would be Lots of alcohol involved and that would not be good for my stitch.
I think Im going to stay with my boys and plan some fun events for the 3 of us to do. Maybe take them to a movie, shoot off some fireworks, go to the beach, stay up late, etc etc. Come to think of it, they've never really experienced New years Eve.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
