The end of Limboland

[mj0221]

Had a great Christmas with the girls. I was surprised myself I had as good a time as I did.
I managed to buy all gifts for the girls with no help from H who didn't contribute a dime and they actually told they liked everything better than they ever have. I think it's because they weren't overloaded with things.

H messaged to see if he could bring gift to Daughter. He came over after we finished our Christmas as planned. I stayed in my room, let her answer door. I was appalled. He stayed for 8 minutes. I'm ashamed he's her dad right now considering the strong bond they used to have. 8 minutes after only seeing her twice in the last year. He got her a gift and a small stuffed animal. What I think is sad, the last two nights she has slept holding tightly to that stuffed animal. She wants that relationship with him. But his excuses for no relationship with her always begin with she, her, you, y'all. Never I, me, ( for example she didn't want to see me, she heard you talking, y'all were going somewhere). He will not ever take any responsibility for the mess he created between the two of them. The 2 times they did see each other she acted like the adult and asked him and set it up. Ok enough of my rant.

I knew I couldn't make it ALL the way through Christmas. As expected, the morning after Christmas at 9:00 my attorney calls to let me know H has responded to the papers after having them for 6 weeks. I knew he was going to wait and do it on Christmas. I got mad and called him. I know I shouldn't have. He loves to see me sweat. It gives him more power. Why do I do that? My mom told me do whatever I have to do other than call him when I get mad like that because it just gives him more ammo. She works in the courts and said he can easily try and make me look crazy. Also I am furious, the papers the attorney sent uses his title, not Mr. ..... I am so worried if this goes to court I am toast with his title. My mom said let it go or I will start being made to look crazy if I fight that. I have bigger issues to fight.

Where has the sensitive, caring, never talking mean about anyone H gone? I wish he would come to his senses. Clearly he's not.