Reaching out for support and advice!!

[melissag]

Oh, Blues, that is awful and I am sorry this happened. I agree with 3 on every point she made. Your H has acknowledged that he is out of control. He obviously sees that he is wrong, but isn't at a point where he can make things right.

Know that your H's behavior is not a reflection on you. Please, please keep reminding yourself of that. I know that won't take away the hurt, but at least it will help avoid his behavior wreaking havoc on your self esteem.

I agree with waiting a little while to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Right now it is coming out as being angry on behalf of the kids. And maybe that is what it is (totally reasonable). But as I learned yesterday, sometimes we attribute the anger to one thing, when it is really coming from something deeper, or just different. And I don't think that you can properly set boundaries if you don't know for sure what you are protecting yourself from.

((((Blues))))