Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

Yesterday when I came home from work the Christmas gift I gave W was moved from where I placed it on her bed when I gave it to her. She has left the bedroom door wide open the last couple days when she is not home so I didn't consider it invading any privacy since I did not enter the room to see it. Not sure if she opened the gift or not.

She didn't speak much to me yesterday just some talk about the mail.

Im doing ok with this living arrangement for the moment. Just want to make sure I am proceeding in the correct manner. I cant help wondering if there is someone else and if there is will I be able to spot the signs of possible trouble in the A.

I am not ok with A if it is happening but I want to be there to pick up the pieces if a break up does happen or I would like to do something that will drive a wedge between them to facilitate an end to it. I know if I confront her my first question will be why don't you move in with him then if he is giving you what you think I couldn't? It would be interesting to hear her answer.

If she did see the person that saw her with OM. I hope she does not think I am Ok with this going on because I haven't confronted her about it.

This is what is confusing me right now. Do I confront or just play it cool? I don't want to be made a fool of but I also don't want to push her away any further.

I am trying to do all things I wanted to do while I was not living in the home. The problem is it will start to cost some money and she said we cant do any improvements until we speak to the L. Who knows when that will be. I want to make some updates that I know she has wanted for a long time but at the same time not sure if that is the prudent thing to do. Even though it my feeling that once she sees what it looks like it may help her start to see that maybe she should give our M another try.