Her friend that I saw last night was at our house playing with our dog a couple days before BD. And last night her perfunctory "hey." was said with venom behind it. I wonder what kind stories are going around regarding me. I'm sure they're wonderful! wink
When we try to make up stories about what others are thinking we're often wrong. In my sitch I know that my friends (and I am grateful to have an amazing group of friends of all ages)didn't say anything ugly about H. They were honest with me but no one was advising me to do anything mean or hurtful. We didn't sit around and talk about him as if he were the devil. My friends were really just listening to me and supporting me through a very tough time. I was much more vocal than they were.
Would my friends have been uncomfortable had they run into him somewhere? Probably. It's a tough position for people who know both people in a couple on the rocks.
When we assume what's going on it colors your interactions. You don't know what's happening with her friends so you might as well think it's neutral and believe that this is tough for everyone.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
