So you're dating......good for you!

[CallaghanClown]

Something just clicked. I knew it but I just didn't understand how important it was.

My H's mother died when he was 19, in his arms, suddenly of a heart attack. His father is an alcoholic that never showed him love in the traditional sense and he's continuously abandoned him over the years whenever H hasn't gone along with whatever his fathers wishes were. His brother abandoned him for the same reason that his father did over the years and still to this day doesn't speak to him. All of his family have a history of major falling outs and there has never been a moment in the 18 years that I've known him that they are all speaking to eachother. His grandparents had the same relationship in their generation too.

So basically I can't and won't abandon him. I'm not saying that we'll ever have a M again but I am right here right now making a promise to myself and my kids that I won't continue this cycle. I will not abandon him and my kids will not grown up with this family dynamic around them.

I spent years trying to make him agree with everything I said. I was always right......just like his dad. I'm not right. I wasn't right. I'm human. As is he.