House sold, got new one, family breaking up....

[FloydMan]

Hey AJM,

Ya she was separated and went back to try due to pressure of family etc...at least that's what she said. The four parents are all close friends. They are Persian and have only been here 12-13 years. Said the pregnancy was an accident and is going to try and make it work as a family. I must respect that. Though she said she is unsure if she is happy about the pregnancy but is accepting it.
I was very, very attracted to her and she is 19 years younger and the shallow side of me knows she is absolutely stunning but clearly is mixed up. She is committing to someone she really doesn't love in the heart but feels the friendship they have is strong enough to try.
Odd today, she seemed mad at me. So I asked if she just wanted me to be out of her life altogether and never communicate and she said no, that she wants to be friends. I think it is best I just back away. It hurt because I did like her a lot, hoped we could have started something and was a bit of ego validation but my kids sent me tons of love and say they can't wait to spend the week with me staring Saturday so that is validation enough for me.
The Holidays have been sombre. It just doesn't feel right but it is the way forward. The ongoing litigation and her antics continue. She tried to pit my D15 against me about money. Created some uncomfortable strain with my D but hope I explained that I pay my monthly support and that her mother should not ask her to ask me for more on her behalf putting her in the middle. Her mom feels i should pay half for her entertainment when on her access time. The law, supprt order and agreements say otherwise. Terrible to make the child do this and make me look bad. Hope my D understands. My L and counsellor say to simply refuse when exW does this or it won't stop. She sucked me in long enough. Now she uses the child. Ultra manipulative. Both the counsellor and L say my D will someday get it. Short term pain as they say.