Look back in my thread....go to #1- I begged, I cried, I was utterly broken. Today, If she said she wanted to try again their would be a list of conditions and I would have to start dating this very different person again.
And while at it – take a look at mine and many others as well! What you are experiencing is the normal! PS have said it all so I will only underline this:
WORK ON YOU! - Find out what person you want to be and start changing you!
There are IMHO two things you must not loose in all of this: You and hope!
You design, change and make the you, that you would like to be!
Hope is not something that is given to you – it is something that you decide to have or not to have! Your hope will follow the roller coaster as well but as long as you keep it you stand a chance of R. Everybody does until they decide otherwise. WAS’s path is very similar and so is the path of the LBH that chooses to stand for their M.
Read and learn! Find threads in here from LBHs that are 6-8-10 months old and go through them. You can learn a lot! Not of what to do – but certainly of what not to do! One thing that you can’t do is loose hope because your W bites, changes views, want’s money, gets angry or likewise and if you change the focus back on you and away from her you will find it a lot easier! You will also learn that many have been through what you are experiencing and later they actually felt better than ever!
It is sooo easy to write this – it took me several months just to understand the concept of “focus on you” and then some months to implement it – but if you choose to work you – you will get there! When people write “This is a marathon – not a sprint” and “This will be the hardest thing you have ever done” they do have a point! It is true! Saddle up and get ready for that ride! There is a lot of good waiting if you do it and one of these goodies might even be your W!
The reason I landed here was originally because you asked about PM and phonenumbers on another thread – that’s a no-go here! …what you can do is create a new FB-profile with your username followed by “_DB”….and then start looking for others. You will find many of us in there!
Take care, Scott – take care of Scott!
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
