Divorced and hopes for reconciliation

[slow_it_down]

It's probably best not to push him towards counseling, but that doesn't mean you can't go on your own.

Also, if he's calling you about yoga and movies etc it's fine to spend that time with him. The goal is to spend some time with him, but to also be busy doing other things so that sometimes you can decline because you already have plans.

One thing that really helped me was to think of myself as my H's friend. That meant letting him date and not taking it personally. It hurt like crazy, but it was my goal to support him while not leaning on him for support if that makes sense.

Ideas for GAL? Me personally I try to do things with family or friends but I'm not afraid of going out alone if I have to. Ice skating is fun this time of year, or a movie. When I was pregnant I went on a lot of local tours in my area alone and met some interesting people. Museums are also good if you are flying solo. Heck, just hopping in the car for a road trip to a new city or town to explore on your own can be fun.

Why not make some fun New Years plans with friends or co workers and go w/o your H. You having fun w/o him is very alluring.

Lastly don't be in a rush to tell people. It's much easier to reconcile and rebuild when there isn't pressure from your loved ones on him or u.

You are stronger than you think and you can stay strong for the sake of saving your marriage.