Wife Said She's Done

[OneDay]

Ah Thanks PM! I think! Im not sure how to take your post right now. It doesn't help that I am feeling totally hopeless today.

Today I truly dont think there is anything I can do or say to WAS that will change her mind about wanting a D. I dont think any amount of DB'ing is going to do anything at this point. Im still going to make my changes for myself, but I am completely HOPELESS today.

Even though Im DB'ing and Doing 180's I think I might still be agitating WAS and further driving home her decision . For example, when we would have an argument or fight we would never really solve anything. We would just point out our own right/wrong and why the other person was right/wrong. It was the blame game and one of was right and the other was wrong. (i would usually give in and say I was wrong, your right) Then the next day or so I would act as if everything was ok between us and then start being more happy, joking, laughing, flirting, playful etc. She hated when I did this, because she was still angry with me and thought nothing was solved and it probably wasn't. I feel that I'm following sandi's rules very well, except for sometimes I respond a bit too short and kind of rude. (I'm working on this). But Im still doubting myself to the whole DB'ing. I really don't think I'm doing this correctly.

As for the current situation, we do not have an extreme closeness. I would say it is cordial. She's nice enough, asks questions, asks for favors, ask for opinions, but nothing out of the ordinary. Im still sleeping on the blow up mattress. She does not want me to see her naked. She will hide herself/close the door when she gets out of the shower (she never use to do that). We are basically roommates.

Another thing, I cant get the "good things" that happened right before the BD out of my head. Things seemed fine to me a month prior to DB. I guess she did a fantastic job at acting that things were fine. Worst of all its full speed ahead. When she said she's done, she honestly meant it. I really don't her anymore, she is not the same person, she even looks different to me. Its weird and I dont like it all.

If your still following, I Thank You.